If you are thinking about changing the way you treat your peers, you’re on the right track.
Just acknowledging that you have a problem is the first step towards taking responsibility and changing your behaviour.
Here are some things you should know about bullying:
It is everyone’s right to be treated with respect and to feel safe. Just because you don’t like someone doesn’t mean it’s alright to abuse or harass them.
There are different kinds of bullying, from physical bullying (hitting, shoving, and so on) to verbal and emotional bullying (calling names, teasing, or excluding someone). Sometimes, verbal bullying can have the most serious effects. All bullying is wrong. It’s never OK.
Effects of bullying include depression, hopelessness, anxiety, and school and relationship problems. It’s not just the kids who get bullied who experience negative effects – it’s witnesses and people who bully, too.
Many times, people bully someone who has bullied them first, or who they think deserves it in some way. But no matter what someone has done to you, it’s never OK to try to hurt them on purpose.
You can change! Lots of people who bully others learn how to behave differently, and have healthy friendships with other people. Help is out there. Counsellors at Kids Help Phone are here to talk – we won’t judge you or turn you away. Call 1-800-668-6868 or vor chat with us when Live Chat is available.
What should I do?
If you want to change your behaviour, it’s a good idea to get help. Talk to a trusted adult, someone at school like a guidance counsellor, or call us at Kids Help Phone (1-800-668-6868) to find out where you can find someone to help you.
This online workbook can also help you work through how to stop bullying others.
A lot of bullying occurs in group situations, where three or more people bully one or two others. Sometimes, you might be involved in group bullying without really knowing who started it, or why you’re doing it. You might be following someone else’s lead, or you might find it just “happens” when a certain group is together.
If you’re involved in group bullying, and want to stop, good for you!
Here are some things you can try:
The next time your group is bullying others, try walking away,
or telling the others to stop.
You can also try talking to others in the group once the bullying episode is over. Explain you don’t want to be involved anymore, and tell them that the next time it happens, you’ll take a stand.
A counsellor at Kids Help Phone (1-800-668-6868) can help you brainstorm ways to put an end to group bullying.
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Last Reviewed October 2012 by the Kids Help Phone Counselling Team